MEMORY VERSE: “Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.” – Proverbs 10:12
BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 15:1-7
Violence can be defined as “extreme force, action intended to cause destruction, pain or suffering, widespread fighting, injustice, wrong etc. While domestic violence is an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in intimate relationship (Prov.27:4; Eccl. 7:9).Other terms used for domestic abuse include domestic abuse, battering and family violence. This ranges from use of abusive/derogatory, physical assault to the use of dangerous weapons. It has been observed that some family members, in spite of the proclaim, still engage in acts of violence against one another. Therefore, we need to find out why this is so and remedies to this act.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: FORMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
- Physical Violence: This include flogging, bullying, battering, stoning, strangling, pushing, kicking, slapping, punching, hitting, confinement, assault with weapons, destruction of victim’s personal property/possessions or treat to do so, and murder. Gen. 4:8.
- Verbal Abuse: This include verbal threats or intimidations to gain compliance, instilling fear or further violence, yelling or screaming, constant harassment and name calling.1 Sam. 20:30.
iii. Sexual violence: This include sexual assault (forcing someone to participate in unwanted/unsafe or degrading sexual activity), sexual harassment (ridiculing another person to try to limit their sexuality). Sexual exploitation (such as forcing someone into sex hawking). 2 Sam.:12-14.
- Psychological Violence: Such as smoking, imitating, isolating, threatening, intimidating and exclusion from meaningful events. 2 Sam.13:22-23.
- Emotional Violence: Such as rejection, pretending not to notice one’s presence. Gen. 21:9-11.
- Economic Violence: This include withholding economic resources (such as money), stealing from or defrauding a partner, withholding physical resources such as food, clothes, necessary medications or shelter from a partner or children, preventing a spouse from working or choosing an occupation. 1 Tim. 5:8
vii. Religious Violence: This include preventing one’s spouse from practicing his/her religious or spiritual belief, forcing the children to be reared in a faith that a spouse has not agreed to, using a spouse religious or spiritual belief to manipulate him/her. Dan. 3:14, 20
2: CAUSES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
- Economic hardship, unemployment, stress, provocation by the spouse.
- Emotional/psychological issues such as depression, desperation, feeling of insecurity, suspicion and fear. Sexual infidelity, etc.
- Character defects (jealousy, anger) alcohol and drug related issues, insincerity and deception/failed expectations.
- Complex issue (inferiority/superiority).
- Failure to yield to divine instructions. Gen.4:4-8.
- Third party/interference from family, friends, colleagues, etc.
- Environmental factors, spiritual attack, generational curses, etc.
CONCLUSION: If there is no peace in the home, the society will also be void of peace. Let us identify the root cause of violence in our families and deal with it prayerfully.