Sunday School Lesson 29SOCIAL ETIQUETTE
MEMORY VERSE: “Let all things be done decently and in order”. — 1Corinthians 14:40 (NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: TITUS 3:1-2
INTRODUCTION: Etiquette is the customary code (specific rules) of polite behaviour within a culture, society or professional group. It makes one behave in a socially responsible way distinct from animals. Etiquette is applicable to various fields of life: social, professional, business, spiritual, etc. When someone knows and follows respected rules for behaviour, we say that person has good etiquette or manners. The Bible equally advises us as believers to apply decency and orderliness in whatever we do (1Corinthians 14:40). Hence, it is necessary for youths to be guided in their dealings and interactions with others.
1. THE NEED FOR ETIQUETTE
2. SOME SOCIAL ETIQUETTES
- THE NEED FOR ETIQUETTE
People around us must not feel embarrassed by our behaviour. One should not behave irrationally or illogically in public. Without etiquette, members of society would show far too much impatience and disrespect for one another (1Peter 3:8). Etiquette makes you a cultured individual who leaves his mark wherever he goes. It teaches you the way to eat, talk, walk and most importantly behave in the society (Proverbs 23:1-2; Colossians 4:5-6; Titus 3:2). It is essential for an everlasting first impression (Philippians 4:5a). The way you interact with your superiors, parents, fellow workers, friends speak a lot about your personality and up-bringing (Proverbs 18:24). Etiquette enables the individuals to earn respect and appreciation in the society (Luke 6:31). It inculcate a feeling of trust and loyalty in the individuals. One becomes more responsible and mature. Etiquette helps individuals to value relationship (Proverbs 25:17). It is a way to remove social barriers and created connection with people who needs to hear the gospel. (1Corinthians 9:22; 10:31; 1Peter 3:15).
2. SOME SOCIAL ETIQUETTES
1. When invited to a social gathering, do not be in a haste to take the front seat until your host brings you up (Proverbs 25:6-7; Luke 14:7-11).
2. Do not call someone more than twice continuously on phone. If they do not pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to.
3. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers asking for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrella, pen, etc. (psalm 37:21).
4. Always be modest. Be careful not to order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you lunch/dinner. Do not use the opportunity to take undue advantage of your host. Also avoid taking friend along except on request (Proverbs 23:1-2).
5. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays, try paying next time (Heb. 10:24).
6. Never comment negatively on someone’s weight in the public (Psalm 139:14).
7. For ladies, avoid sitting carelessly. It is advisable to cross your legs at the ankle. For men, all you have to do is be a gentleman. Rudeness is never manly (Titus 3:2).
8. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, do not swipe left or right, you never know what is next.
9. If a colleague tells you they have a doctor’s appointment, do not ask what for, just say ‘hope you’re okey?’ Do not put them in uncomfortable position of having to say what they do not want to say.
10. Do not be ‘a busy body’ in other people’s matter (1Peter 4:15; 1Thessalonians 4:11; 1Thimothy 5:13).
In addition, youtys should note that rushing for food or chairs in a large gathering, jumping queue in pupil places, flagrant disregard for decorum, driving against traffic or breaking traffic laws, littering the environment with waste, reckless slangs (‘shit’, ‘fuck’, etc.), lack of table manners and improper dressing of any kind should be avoided (2Corinthians 3:2; Debt. 22:5; 1Corinthians 10:31; Philippians 3: 16-18).
Lack of social etiquette could lead to insults, dishonesty, cheating, road rage, fist fight and many other unfortunate incidents.
Etiquette is more than fussy rules laid down by stuffy people. It is the oil that lubricates society and reduces the friction of interpersonal relationship. Bad manners and poor etiquette are distractions to the message we bear as Christians.
1. Why is etiquette necessary in our society?
2. List some social etiquettes youths should adhere to.